get your ex back nowHow to Get Your Ex Back Tips #4: Stay Busy.

Raise your hand if all you’ve been doing since the break up is laying around the house all day in your pajamas, listening to Boys II Men, and eating Twinkies. Raise your hand if all you can think about is what your ex is doing at this moment. Raise your hand if you can’t seem to get in the mood to do anything.

Now, raise your hand if you think any of the above are actually healthy for you. I seriously hope you didn’t just raise your hand!

One of the worst, most unproductive things you can do after your split is lie around the house, mope all day, and feel sorry for yourself. There’s nothing positive that can come from it. It’s not healthy, physically or mentally, and it lowers your confidence in yourself. Not to mention that if your ex were to unexpectedly drop by, they probably wouldn’t find what they saw attractive. Trust me, it happens.

It’s time for you to make a very important decision – one that could quite possibly change your life forever. It’s time for you to decide whether you want to continue this disruptive behavior, or break this deadly cycle and take control of your life again.

Starting today – at this very moment if you really want to get your ex back – I want you to make a vow to yourself that you will get off your butt and do something productive. This means doing anything that will do the following:

1. Take your mind off your ex for an extended period of time, and

2. Rebuild the confidence that you were once so full of

It’s important that you concentrate on other things besides what your ex is doing or who they’re with. It’s time to take the focus off of them for a minute and put it back on you. While you’re at it, why don’t you work on building your confidence back up, too. You might as well kill two birds with one stone!

Now that you know the “why”, what about the “what”?  What can you do that will take your mind off your ex and help build your confidence back up? In all honesty, the possibilities are endless. However, there are two activities that really stick out in my mind, and both helped me tremendously after my break up with my ex. They are:

1. Going out with friends and socializing.

2. Finding a hobby that will keep you engaged and excited over a period of time.

Going out with friends and meeting new people, and learning how to play the guitar, greatly helped me after my ex and I split. My mind wasn’t occupied with thoughts of her all day, and I was able to regain my confidence that everyone used to compliment me on. It was truly one of the greatest experiences of my life.

The first activity, socializing, is pretty self-explanatory. Get out of the house and start interacting with people again! Not only does it take your mind off your ex, it also livens you up! There’s nothing better than having a night full of laughs with people you care about. It’s an amazing feeling. I cover being social in more detail in Tip # 4.

Right now, I want to go a little more in-depth with the second activity – finding a hobby.

The benefits of finding a hobby you enjoy are endless. Having a hobby keeps your mind occupied.It engages you.  It gives you a sense of accomplishment. It increases your skills. It can lead to new friendships.  It can even help you decide on a new career path. However, above all else, finding a hobby increases your confidence.  And let’s face it, everyone is drawn to a confident person, including your ex.

The main problem people face when trying to find a hobby is the act of actually finding one. Where do you start? What can you do? What do you like to do?

I can’t tell you what hobby you should choose. It varies from person to person.  However, below is a list of ideas. Maybe you will see one you’re interested in. If you don’t, then don’t give up. Get on the internet. Ask your friends what they think. Go to the bookstore and look around. Look for inspiration everywhere. Make this your number one goal for the moment.

List of ideas for hobbies:

  • Learning a foreign language
  • Learning a musical instrument
  • Doing volunteer work
  • Needlework, patchwork, etc.
  • Writing
  • Exercising
  • Learning a new sport
  • Dance classes
  • Photography
  • Leadership training
  • Tutoring
  • Helping with kids
  • Scuba Diving

You get the picture! Trust me, there are a million other things you can do. All you have to do is think a little and do some searching.

Once you’ve found a hobby, dedicate a little time each day towards it. Set goals to meet. Make an honest effort to become better at the hobby you’ve chosen. You’ll soon find that your mind stops wondering towards thoughts of your ex and starts focusing on what you’re doing at that moment.

Yes, you can sit in your room and pout all day. Yes, you can do nothing but watch sappy love stories and romantic comedies on T.V. Yes, you can down a whole box of chocolate chip cookies in one sitting. But are you really improving your situation?  Are you really taking any steps towards changing yourself to get your ex back?

Take charge of your life again. Get out of the house and start interacting with people! Find a hobby and start doing something productive. Take your mind off of your ex for a little while and work on building your confidence back up! You’ve got some work to do if you want to get your ex back, and you’re going to need all the confidence you can get.

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